Connection

We went to our Grief Group last night and got there a little early. I was browsing the group library (really just a pile of donated books) and the “librarian,” who likes to make recommendations, handed me a book called “Now Childless” and said she thought it would be a good fit for me, or something like that. It looked like a product of the 1980’s or maybe even the 70’s, one of those pamphlets you were given when you got your first period that said “Now That You’re A Woman.” But maybe it’s full of wisdom and common sense tips.

The topic of discussion was the best ways we manage our grief. A lot of people talked about having to spend time wrapping up their children’s estates and sell their homes and so forth and how that kept them busy. A lot of people talked about traveling, which has been good for us too, at least the two trips we have taken.

There were several people who, like me, are still struggling with their grief management. There were similar stories of watching too much tv and emotional eating and so forth. I really hope that in a few years I’m a success story.

There was a mom at the meeting who was new who shared her story. She said her daughter had died Christmas Day driving and falling asleep at the wheel. I thought wow, so this is really fresh for her. Then she said it happened 29 years ago. But it still affects her every day.

A number of people talked about their belief that death can’t be the end for their children, and the comfort that idea gives them. Either religion, or just some philosophy or idea of life after death. I do believe Sarah’s energy still exists and that we are still connected. I have to.